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5 Ways to Remain Self-Motivated After a Setback

5 Ways to Remain Self-Motivated After a Setback

You did it! You figured out how to be self-motivated. It was no small feat, but now you’re done…right? 

Not so fast. Just because you learned how to be motivated from within doesn’t mean the chase is over, and you’ve won the game. 

Just as life has its ebbs and flows, people have their own ups and downs. You may have a setback (or two or three), and in that case, you have no idea how your mindset could change. 

That may sound daunting, but it’s important to be realistic. If you’ve gotten this far as a self-motivated individual, you’ve likely had to be realistic with yourself in the past. It’s not game over – you’ve just started a new level, a new phase of life that you’ll have to conquer. Check out these 5 ways to keep up the self-motivation after facing a setback. 

1) Redefine Your Approach

If you did the same things for your entire life and never made changes to your approaches, you probably wouldn’t make much progress. When you feel like you hit a roadblock, view it as a chance to figure out a new way around it. 

2) Spend Time with People Who Make You Feel Good

Not everyone makes you feel great. Whether it’s a personality conflict or someone who brings you down, if you feel like you’re leaving a social situation with more negative feelings than positive ones, it might be a good idea to check out of it altogether. Those people definitely won’t lift you up and help you get back on your feet. 

3) Give Yourself Some TLC

The first thing you may do when you experience a setback is to get angry with yourself. You may turn from self-motivated mode to self-deprecation mode in a matter of moments. Don’t do that! Instead, remind yourself of all the great things you’ve done – all of your accomplishments and wonderful qualities. Give yourself a designated period of self-care, because as soon as you beat yourself up about something, it’ll be much harder to get those inspiration levels back up later. 

4) Reward Yourself at Least Once Daily

While you’re indulging in self-care, be sure to do at least one positive, uplifting thing daily. That doesn’t mean finishing a pint of ice cream or staying in bed all day. It means you should do something productive that makes you happy. Try taking a walk outside or cooking a healthy, delicious meal. Maybe you’d like to try out a new hobby or start going to the gym. 

5) Let the Past be the Past

It’s called the past for a reason. You could spend hours thinking about what happened before your setback and how you could have changed it. Hindsight is 20/20, so the only thing that will happen here is it will make you feel worse. Be confident in your decisions, and don’t look back.  

How A Gratitude Mindset Can Help You Reach your Goals

How A Gratitude Mindset Can Help You Reach your Goals

When we have a long-term goal we are working towards, it’s easy to be so focused on it that we start to believe we won’t be happy until we reach it. It’s important to have long-term goals, but not at the expense of your daily life. Staying in a place of gratitude for what you already have and what you’ve already achieved in your life can be a huge benefit in reaching your goals. 

Gratitude Makes You Happier

Neurologists have learned that feelings of gratitude actually change the way your brain works. When you are consciously aware of all the wonderful things in your life, you are happier and more content. When you are happy and feeling good about your life, it’s easier to believe that more good things await you down the road.

Gratitude Lowers Stress

A life filled with the struggle to always be better will lead to a life of stress. Yes, you want to reach your goals. You want to unlock all the potential that’s inside you. But finding a way to balance this desire with gratitude for what you’ve already accomplished and what you have in your life today is also important. When constantly pushing yourself forward, it’s easy to believe you aren’t good enough today. Focusing on what you have to be grateful for today lowers your stress level and helps you enjoy the journey to your ultimate goal.

Gratitude Makes You More Optimistic

Believing the grass is always greener on the other side is a sure way to ensure your dissatisfaction with life. It makes you feel like you may never get the life you want. This pessimism just makes everything in life harder. You may even just give up on your dreams because you don’t believe you can attain them. Keeping a grateful mindset offers you a way to enjoy life now and look forward to the future, onceyour goals have been realized.

Obtaining a grateful spirit doesn’t take a lot of time and effort, but it makes a huge difference in your life. Start by keeping a small notebook with you or using an app on your phone to note the little things that happen throughout your day that you are grateful for. Some people prefer to keep a gratitude journal by their bed and add a short list of things that they are grateful for that day. Give it a try if you feel you’ve been too focused on a goal and it’s making you unappreciative for what you already have.

Not Finishing What You Started Can Hurt You

Not Finishing What You Started Can Hurt You

Do you pass the hallway of forgotten projects when you enter your house? Or maybe all the projects you leave unfinished are stuffed into a closet where none of your guests can judge you over them. 

The point is, you tend to leave a lot of the things you start unfinished, and whether you realize it or not, this habit could be hurting you in several ways. 

It May Make You Anxious

If you find yourself constantly feeling anxious, it could be because of all the projects you are constantly leaving unfinished. Even if you don’t currently feel any anxiety, this doesn’t mean you won’t eventually feel anxious feelings as a result ofyour unfinished projects. 

Not only that, but when feelings of anxiety go unresolved, they could lead to more serious issues such as depression. Thus, it’s better to do whatever possible to avoid causing yourself to feel anxiety.

You Will Have Issues With Frustration

Whether you realize it or not, leaving projects unfinished is a deep source of frustration in your life. This frustration may not just be affecting your personal life. It could also be affecting your professional life, causing you to lash out at coworkers and maybe even your boss. If this sounds like you, it means your unfinished projects could actually be what is holding you back in your career. 

You Won’t Move Forward

Finishing what you start is an important part of creating change within your life. If you aren’t finishing the things you are starting, you aren’t changing. If you aren’t changing yourself, you are stagnant. Without change, you can’t move forward. You will set aside any goals or dreams you have for yourself, and you may never complete them. It could also mean that you won’t feel a feeling of accomplishment, which is another crucial aspect of helping propel yourself forward in life. 

Conclusion

Although you may not think that not finishing what you’ve started is hurting you, the truth is, it probably is. When you leave a project unfinished, it can cause anxiety and feelings of frustration to develop and fester.

Beyond just that, when you aren’t finishing something, you are remaining stagnant in your life and denying yourself the growth and development you deserve. It is time to stop setting tasks aside and start completing the things you start today!

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