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Fear-Based Motivation

Fear-Based Motivation

Fear can be an effective catalyst for motivation. For example, if your boss tells you to get your project done on time or you will lose your job, you can be sure you’re going to do everything in your power to get that project done. You may resent your boss for doing this, but you are probably going to do as he or she wishes unless you are looking to get fired.

Another situation where fear will motivate you is when something crucial breaks in your home. It could be the furnace giving out in the middle of winter. You are at a point where you have no choice but to call for expensive repairs. If you don’t, you’ll risk the pipes freezing and being uncomfortable.

We all have a certain amount of fear-based motivation. But, is it the best way to get people to do things? In the case of the furnace, you’ll have no choice and have to chalk it up to being a part of life. But, in the case of your boss harping on to you, is there a better way for him or her to handle the situation? Can you continually work in an environment based on that kind of fear?

It’s questionable whether motivation based on fear is sustainable. If you are an employee and there aren’t many jobs available as alternatives, you may feel like you have no choice but to comply. But, sometimes, this kind of negative working environment gets people more motivated to get out of the situation. In other words, the motivation tactics may work in the short-term, but eventually, employers may experience a high turnover when those employees recognize there are other choices. The internet is a great equalizer in this regard as more people can choose to freelance on their terms.

There’s an old saying about how you catch more flies with (vegan) honey. 😊 If managers would recognize they would get more loyalty out of people by offering incentives rather than scare tactics to get their employees to do the work, maybe turnover wouldn’t be so high. Unfortunately, these managers don’t learn this until it’s too late. And even then, will they make any changes? Often, they make the justification that it’s the employee’s fault and they decided to leave.

Think about the impact you have if you are a manager trying to motivate your employees. If you have used fear as a motivator, is it something that has worked for you in the long-term? Or, did you simply set an environment where people couldn’t wait to get away?

5 Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way and Get Important Stuff Done

5 Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way and Get Important Stuff Done

Are you frittering away your day?

It sounds like a funny thing to ask, like something your grandmother might say, but think about it. When we become caught up in small, nonsensical tasks where we spend the day spinning our wheels, it could very well be said that you’re frittering. Is this something you really want to be doing?

Rather than waste your time by doing what’s unnecessary, why not spend more time in a directed activity designed to help you realize your dreams? In short, wouldn’t you rather be getting Important Stuff Done than…well…what you’ve been doing? 

It’s time to get out of your own way and take charge of your life. Read on for some quick tips to find out how.

Remember What You’re Fighting For

Too often, we put off tasks that seem pointless. After all, why should we be wasting our time? To combat this, do this one incredibly simple thing: remind yourself why you’re doing it. When you have a purpose, it’s easy to get moving, even if the reason you’re doing it is something small and only meaningful to you.

Focus on the Goal

Now take things a step further. You know why you’re doing something. Now imagine what life will be like once this goal is accomplished. Hone in on the benefit, like how good it will feel to have this completed, or how life will be made simpler once this is finished.

Stop Comparisons

The entire world grinds to a halt when you start obsessing over what other people are doing instead of focusing on reaching your own goals. The sad truth is, someone will always do it better than you. To get caught up in this game is only going to drive you crazy and keep you from reaching your own important things done. A better choice? Compare where you are now with where you were a year ago or five years ago. Focus on your personal growth and accomplishments and make a new goal of beating the records set by the old you.

Drop the Perfectionism

Nothing derails you faster than getting caught up in making sure everything is ‘just right.’ For one thing, you’re never going to achieve perfection, so all you wind up doing is forever nitpicking at something without ever turning the work in. Sometimes you just have to tell yourself ‘good enough’ is ok and let it go so you can move on to the next thing.

Indulge in Instant Gratification

Sometimes it just feels good to have a little reward now and again. Keep a supply of small treats, such as a few minutes playing a favorite game on your phone or even a little snack you like for when you reach those important milestones. You’ll be amazed at what a bump this gives to your productivity.

Not Finishing What You Started Can Hurt You

Not Finishing What You Started Can Hurt You

Do you pass the hallway of forgotten projects when you enter your house? Or maybe all the projects you leave unfinished are stuffed into a closet where none of your guests can judge you over them. 

The point is, you tend to leave a lot of the things you start unfinished, and whether you realize it or not, this habit could be hurting you in several ways. 

It May Make You Anxious

If you find yourself constantly feeling anxious, it could be because of all the projects you are constantly leaving unfinished. Even if you don’t currently feel any anxiety, this doesn’t mean you won’t eventually feel anxious feelings as a result ofyour unfinished projects. 

Not only that, but when feelings of anxiety go unresolved, they could lead to more serious issues such as depression. Thus, it’s better to do whatever possible to avoid causing yourself to feel anxiety.

You Will Have Issues With Frustration

Whether you realize it or not, leaving projects unfinished is a deep source of frustration in your life. This frustration may not just be affecting your personal life. It could also be affecting your professional life, causing you to lash out at coworkers and maybe even your boss. If this sounds like you, it means your unfinished projects could actually be what is holding you back in your career. 

You Won’t Move Forward

Finishing what you start is an important part of creating change within your life. If you aren’t finishing the things you are starting, you aren’t changing. If you aren’t changing yourself, you are stagnant. Without change, you can’t move forward. You will set aside any goals or dreams you have for yourself, and you may never complete them. It could also mean that you won’t feel a feeling of accomplishment, which is another crucial aspect of helping propel yourself forward in life. 

Conclusion

Although you may not think that not finishing what you’ve started is hurting you, the truth is, it probably is. When you leave a project unfinished, it can cause anxiety and feelings of frustration to develop and fester.

Beyond just that, when you aren’t finishing something, you are remaining stagnant in your life and denying yourself the growth and development you deserve. It is time to stop setting tasks aside and start completing the things you start today!

Achieve Inner Peace and Focus with These 6 Strategies

Achieve Inner Peace and Focus with These 6 Strategies

It’s difficult to stay productive when your brain is buzzing. You have so many ideas and thoughts in your head that it’s tough to focus on your to do list. But you don’t have to let the mental noise ruin your productivity. You can quiet your brain by doing a few simple things then you’ll be able to return to work with focus and clarity.

Start a journal. 

When your mind is buzzing, try writing down your thoughts in a journal. This exercise will help you empty your mind so that your brain is free to focus again. Once you’ve finished with your thoughts, write about the benefits that finishing your tasks for the day will bring you. By writing about your tasks, you’ll be able to sort through and pick which ones are the most important to you.

Try coloring.

Coloring for half an hour is a great way to let go of mental clutter. Allow your thoughts to come as you focus on the design of your coloring sheet. Besides helping calm your brain, coloring also allows you to get into a creative mindset. That makes it a great activity if you’re trying to come up with a solution to a problem or seeking inspiration for a project you’re working on. If you dislike coloring, you might try doodling instead. You’ll still get the same benefits as coloring.

Practice yoga.

Yoga is another great way to calm your mind. It’s effective because it allows you to get fully in tune with your body. If other thoughts try to interrupt you, push them away and focus on your current pose. You don’t have to buy an expensive DVD to practice yoga. There are many yoga videos available for free on YouTube.

Take a walk.

Taking a walk, even a short one, is helpful when your brain is buzzing. Not only does walking get you away from your desk, it’s also a great way to relieve stress. You can powerwalk or jog if you prefer that to a leisurely pace. But be choosy with your location. Busy streets can make it hard for you to focus and relax. Instead, opt for quiet streets or walk at local park that you enjoy visiting.

Meditate.

Meditation is a quick way to calm your mind and body. Get into a comfortable position and focus on your breathing. Take slow breaths and feel your body move as you inhale and exhale. Release any conscious thoughts as they come to you. If you’re new to meditation, it can be helpful to choose an object or word to focus on during your session. 

Take a hot bath.

A hot bath is the perfect way to calm an overactive brain. Besides helping you relax, a warm bath can also improve circulation and ease tense muscles. After you’re finished soaking, try to take a quick shower with lukewarm or cold water. This wakes your body up and energizes you so that you’re ready to tackle the rest of your to do list.

When your brain is buzzing, don’t try to work despite it. Instead, acknowledge how you feel right now and try one of the exercises listed above. Then you’ll be able to return to work with a focused mindset.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. When you’re overwhelmed, what helps you relax the most?

2. Do you find yourself frequently flitting from task to task without accomplishing anything? What do you think is causing this?

3. How can you create a system that lets you capture and organize your ideas?

3 Reasons Why You Can’t Get Into Productivity Mode

3 Reasons Why You Can’t Get Into Productivity Mode

When it comes to running your own business, there’s always something productive you can be doing. But some days, you may find it difficult to get into your normal work rhythm. You may feel distracted and struggle to focus on your tasks. You may experience headaches or dizziness. You might also be feeling fatigued.

Instead of giving up and watching Netflix for the next few hours, it can helpful to check in with your body. When you stop to check in with yourself, you may find that a simple fix is all that’s required for getting back into your normal productive mode. 

Here are three things that can disrupt your natural work flow:  

Your body is hungry.

When you’re hungry, it’s hard to think things through and that makes decision making difficult. That’s why it’s important that you take time to nourish your body. You wouldn’t set out on a road trip with an empty gas tank so don’t expect your body to perform at its very best when you’re denying it much needed fuel. 

You can easily remedy this situation by getting something to eat. But steer clear of sugary snacks. They may give you a temporary burst of energy but that energy will be gone within a couple of hours, leaving your body just as hungry as before. Instead, try to opt for healthier snacks that contain plenty of protein like a handful of nuts or a baked potato. 

Your thoughts are scattered.

You go to work on one project but get distracted by another one. Then you decide to check your email and catch up on your social media updates. Before you know it, you have twelve different activities open on your screen. 

When this happens, you might be experiencing a lack of focus. You have so many ideas and tasks that you don’t know where to start working. In this case, it’s best to pause and make a list. Write down everything you need to accomplish today or this week. Then prioritize these projects by numbering them. Your most important task should be number one so after you’re finished with your list, start there. 

Your body is exhausted.

There are many things that can cause you to feel exhausted besides a lack of sleep. Emotional stress, illness, chronic pain, and other problems can deplete your energy. When you’re exhausted, it’s hard to work on your business.

The best way to tackle exhaustion is to practice self-care. Look at your life and ask yourself what you really need right now. You might need a day off. You might need a sitter to help watch your kids while you work. 

You might need to let go of stressful clients or remove projects that aren’t a good fit for your talents. Don’t hesitate to give yourself what you need. If you take good care of yourself, you’ll find it easier to nurture your business.

It’s important that you take time to check in with your mind and body a few times each day. When you do this regularly, you’ll begin to notice your body’s rhythms and be able to plan your work around them.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. When you struggle to get into your normal rhythm, what’s usually the cause?

2. How often do you pause to listen to what your body needs?

3. How do you take care of your body when it has a need? In what ways, do you put yourself on the back burner?

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