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Achieve Inner Peace and Focus with These 6 Strategies

Achieve Inner Peace and Focus with These 6 Strategies

It’s difficult to stay productive when your brain is buzzing. You have so many ideas and thoughts in your head that it’s tough to focus on your to do list. But you don’t have to let the mental noise ruin your productivity. You can quiet your brain by doing a few simple things then you’ll be able to return to work with focus and clarity.

Start a journal. 

When your mind is buzzing, try writing down your thoughts in a journal. This exercise will help you empty your mind so that your brain is free to focus again. Once you’ve finished with your thoughts, write about the benefits that finishing your tasks for the day will bring you. By writing about your tasks, you’ll be able to sort through and pick which ones are the most important to you.

Try coloring.

Coloring for half an hour is a great way to let go of mental clutter. Allow your thoughts to come as you focus on the design of your coloring sheet. Besides helping calm your brain, coloring also allows you to get into a creative mindset. That makes it a great activity if you’re trying to come up with a solution to a problem or seeking inspiration for a project you’re working on. If you dislike coloring, you might try doodling instead. You’ll still get the same benefits as coloring.

Practice yoga.

Yoga is another great way to calm your mind. It’s effective because it allows you to get fully in tune with your body. If other thoughts try to interrupt you, push them away and focus on your current pose. You don’t have to buy an expensive DVD to practice yoga. There are many yoga videos available for free on YouTube.

Take a walk.

Taking a walk, even a short one, is helpful when your brain is buzzing. Not only does walking get you away from your desk, it’s also a great way to relieve stress. You can powerwalk or jog if you prefer that to a leisurely pace. But be choosy with your location. Busy streets can make it hard for you to focus and relax. Instead, opt for quiet streets or walk at local park that you enjoy visiting.


Meditation is a quick way to calm your mind and body. Get into a comfortable position and focus on your breathing. Take slow breaths and feel your body move as you inhale and exhale. Release any conscious thoughts as they come to you. If you’re new to meditation, it can be helpful to choose an object or word to focus on during your session. 

Take a hot bath.

A hot bath is the perfect way to calm an overactive brain. Besides helping you relax, a warm bath can also improve circulation and ease tense muscles. After you’re finished soaking, try to take a quick shower with lukewarm or cold water. This wakes your body up and energizes you so that you’re ready to tackle the rest of your to do list.

When your brain is buzzing, don’t try to work despite it. Instead, acknowledge how you feel right now and try one of the exercises listed above. Then you’ll be able to return to work with a focused mindset.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. When you’re overwhelmed, what helps you relax the most?

2. Do you find yourself frequently flitting from task to task without accomplishing anything? What do you think is causing this?

3. How can you create a system that lets you capture and organize your ideas?

10 Ways to Deal with a Difficult Person (Yes, Even Them)

10 Ways to Deal with a Difficult Person (Yes, Even Them)

Have you ever had to deal with someone who made you want to pull every single hair out of your head and scream at the top of your lungs? Do you have to deal with a person like this on a regular basis?

There’s no way to totally avoid difficult people. They’re going to be in your social circle, your workplace, or even your family. In order to maintain harmonious relationships, preserve your sanity, and just survive, here are 10 strategies to deal with difficult people.

  1. Stay Calm

No matter how much a person drives you crazy, you can’t lose your cool. Learn some strategies to help you stay calm when you feel the anger and frustration coming on. Remembering to take a deep breath usually works for me. Then, follow that up with something like counting to ten, visualizing something peaceful, or using affirmations. This will help you to handle the situation in a calm and controlled fashion. You can always unload your stress later in a healthier way — such as during a workout.

  1. Be Kind

Difficult people don’t always want to ruin our lives. In their mind they believe they are right and justified in their actions. Therefore, they may not be aware at all that they cause so much trouble. When dealing with someone like this, sometimes it is best to assume they have good intentions, so do your best be patient and forgiving. I know — it’s not easy, but consider exercising empathy and compassion when dealing with others. Imagine the struggle they’re having, so that you can address the situation in a peaceful manner. 

  1. Look for the Hidden Need

Often when someone is being difficult, it’s because of some unmet need below the surface. It may not have anything at all to do with the interaction you’re having with them. Sometimes, you can figure out what this need is, provide something that will meet it, and defuse the situation. For example, let’s say this person feels undervalued for the work they do for their boss. If you can take a moment to show a little appreciation, they may become easier to deal with. Also, it could improve your relationship with them overall.

  1. Listen

Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them. Listen to the person without being judgmental and again, show them some empathy. This alone could be enough to defuse the situation and make the other person more reasonable. You both might experience a little relief afterwards.

  1. Ask Questions to Clarify

Effective communication is key. Don’t pretend you understand just to get rid of someone. This will likely cause more problems ahead. Instead, ask questions to clarify. If you’re in the middle of a conflict, asking open-ended questions can uncover what’s lying underneath the undesirable behavior.

  1. Seek Support

If possible, talk to colleagues or others who have dealt with this person in the past to get some perspective. There’s a good chance others feel exactly the same way you do, but they may already understand the behavior or have a tactic for dealing with that person. At the very least, they can listen to you and empathize. It’s much easier to handle a difficult situation when you feel supported. 

  1. Talk to the Person Privately

Talk to the person privately when you’re in a calm, patient frame of mind. In this case, you’re not actively trying to stop the problem behavior. You’re simply letting the person know the effect it’s having. Express to them how their words and actions make you feel. Don’t blame or seek a solution, because this will almost certainly be met with more resistance. Give them a chance to examine their own behavior and possibly change. 

  1. Take Action and Get Relief

Is there some action you could take that would provide relief? For example, maybe you could handle your communications with this person differently. If the meaning in emails is lost in translation, try a more face-to-face approach. Tones or gestures help to convey meaning, and can be beneficial in most cases. Or if the in-person communication isn’t working, try switching to more email correspondence instead. Just be sure to send detailed correspondence in order to avoid further confusion.

  1. Defuse with Humor

Make the difficult situation into a joke and laugh it off. By making it light and humorous, you may be able to draw the other person’s attention to their behavior without being confrontational or emotional. Just be mindful not to go too heavy on sarcasm, or the person will take offense. 

  1. Learn to Say No

Sometimes, our natural inability to say no is the cause of conflict. Get better at saying “no” and turning down opportunities that will bring you into contact with difficult people. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries are not only beneficial, they are a necessity.

Once you’ve figured out the most effective strategies for dealing with a difficult person, take note of what worked and what didn’t. Examine what worked in some situations, but not in others. There’s a good chance you’ll run into a difficult person like this again in the future, so be ready.

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