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5 Ways to Remain Self-Motivated After a Setback

5 Ways to Remain Self-Motivated After a Setback

You did it! You figured out how to be self-motivated. It was no small feat, but now you’re done…right? 

Not so fast. Just because you learned how to be motivated from within doesn’t mean the chase is over, and you’ve won the game. 

Just as life has its ebbs and flows, people have their own ups and downs. You may have a setback (or two or three), and in that case, you have no idea how your mindset could change. 

That may sound daunting, but it’s important to be realistic. If you’ve gotten this far as a self-motivated individual, you’ve likely had to be realistic with yourself in the past. It’s not game over – you’ve just started a new level, a new phase of life that you’ll have to conquer. Check out these 5 ways to keep up the self-motivation after facing a setback. 

1) Redefine Your Approach

If you did the same things for your entire life and never made changes to your approaches, you probably wouldn’t make much progress. When you feel like you hit a roadblock, view it as a chance to figure out a new way around it. 

2) Spend Time with People Who Make You Feel Good

Not everyone makes you feel great. Whether it’s a personality conflict or someone who brings you down, if you feel like you’re leaving a social situation with more negative feelings than positive ones, it might be a good idea to check out of it altogether. Those people definitely won’t lift you up and help you get back on your feet. 

3) Give Yourself Some TLC

The first thing you may do when you experience a setback is to get angry with yourself. You may turn from self-motivated mode to self-deprecation mode in a matter of moments. Don’t do that! Instead, remind yourself of all the great things you’ve done – all of your accomplishments and wonderful qualities. Give yourself a designated period of self-care, because as soon as you beat yourself up about something, it’ll be much harder to get those inspiration levels back up later. 

4) Reward Yourself at Least Once Daily

While you’re indulging in self-care, be sure to do at least one positive, uplifting thing daily. That doesn’t mean finishing a pint of ice cream or staying in bed all day. It means you should do something productive that makes you happy. Try taking a walk outside or cooking a healthy, delicious meal. Maybe you’d like to try out a new hobby or start going to the gym. 

5) Let the Past be the Past

It’s called the past for a reason. You could spend hours thinking about what happened before your setback and how you could have changed it. Hindsight is 20/20, so the only thing that will happen here is it will make you feel worse. Be confident in your decisions, and don’t look back.  

How Avoidance Actually Creates More Stress

How Avoidance Actually Creates More Stress

When you have an especially difficult or stressful task on your plate, it can be very tempting to avoid completing said task. Or if you don’t like to think about a subject because of an experience, it can seem easier to just not think about that topic. Both of these situations are known as avoidance, and though it may be tempting to engage in this behavior, it causes more stress than it relieves. 

You Won’t Stop Thinking About It

If you’ve ever experienced trauma, it can be tempting to avoid all thoughts of things that may remind you of the trauma you experienced. Although this may be less painful in the short run, the truth is, long term, this will stress you out more because the thoughts of your trauma will always return until you genuinely learn to deal with them rather than avoid them. The same holds for certain physical tasks. You may put them off because you don’t want to think about them, but this will only stress you out more because you will have to keep thinking about the task instead of simply completing it now.

You’ll Run Out Of Time

When you put off a task, you may momentarily relieve your stress by telling yourself you will complete the task later. But this is worse than doing the job now because later you will experience more pressure as you are faced with a fast-approaching deadline. This is especially true if you haven’t left yourself enough time to complete the task and have to rush at the last minute. 

Avoidance Creates Conflict

Maybe a coworker is waiting for you to complete your work so they can get started on theirs. And if you didn’t leave yourself enough time before the deadline, you may cause them to be late on meeting their deadline as well. This can cause a conflict between you as your coworker may be upset that you made them late. And when you experience conflict in your relationships, this only adds to your overall stress level rather than lowering it.

Although it can be extremely tempting to avoid certain tasks or put them off, this is a flawed approach as it will only cause you more stress in the long run. This is because avoidance doesn’t solve any problems. Instead, it just creates conflict,which leads to increased stress in the future.

3 Simple Ways to Recharge Your Body

3 Simple Ways to Recharge Your Body

When it comes to being productive, your body is just as important as your brain. If you don’t care for your body, you’ll have a hard time finding the motivation to get through your day. You’ll experience decreased energy and be more likely to feel sluggish and tired. 

The best way to get back into your normal productive routine is to recharge your body. You’ll find it easier to tackle your work with motivation and you’ll be able to give your full attention to all of the projects on your plate. While there are many ways you can recharge, here are three of the most popular ways.

Take a power nap.

A power nap is a short nap that enables you to wake up feeling refreshed. The trick with a power nap is the timing. If you don’t nap long enough, then you may feel groggy upon waking. If you nap too long, then you’ll have a tough time getting to sleep when it’s bedtime.

Many people find that the best length of a power nap is between fifteen and twenty minutes. For even better results, stick to a regular nap schedule. Most doctors advise taking your power nap in the middle of the day. This will allow you to get the benefits of a power nap without it wrecking your sleep cycle.

Treat yourself to a massage.

Many business owners spend a significant part of their day in front of a computer. When you sit all day like this, it’s easy to overwork the muscles in your neck and shoulders. That’s why it can be helpful to get a shoulder or neck massage. 

Besides helping your muscles, a massage is an excellent way to increase your blood circulation and getting one will make you feel more alert. It’s also helpful if you suffer from chronic pain due to a medical condition like fibromyalgia or arthritis.  You can opt for a day trip to the local spa or you could find a massage therapist online through a website like American Massage Therapy Association (AMTA).

Go on a mini retreat.

A retreat is a chance to withdraw from everything around you. It gives you the space to reflect on your priorities and sort through your emotions. A mini retreat might be just what your body needs if you’ve been experiencing a difficult time such as the diagnosis of an illness, the loss of a loved one, or another catastrophe.

Your mini retreat doesn’t have to last long. You can choose to have your own private retreat for just a few hours. Try to pick a place or a series of places that you can go where you feel safe and comfortable. For some people, a safe place might be a library, church, or museum. 

Remember that in many ways your body is like your car. It can get you to your destination but it does need regular care and maintenance in order to operate well.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. What are some warning signs that you’re about to burnout? What are some activities that will recharge you and prevent burnout?

2. What’s your favorite way to re-charge?

3. How often do you schedule time to re-charge? If you don’t, how can you work ‘recharge time’ into your day?

Achieve Inner Peace and Focus with These 6 Strategies

Achieve Inner Peace and Focus with These 6 Strategies

It’s difficult to stay productive when your brain is buzzing. You have so many ideas and thoughts in your head that it’s tough to focus on your to do list. But you don’t have to let the mental noise ruin your productivity. You can quiet your brain by doing a few simple things then you’ll be able to return to work with focus and clarity.

Start a journal. 

When your mind is buzzing, try writing down your thoughts in a journal. This exercise will help you empty your mind so that your brain is free to focus again. Once you’ve finished with your thoughts, write about the benefits that finishing your tasks for the day will bring you. By writing about your tasks, you’ll be able to sort through and pick which ones are the most important to you.

Try coloring.

Coloring for half an hour is a great way to let go of mental clutter. Allow your thoughts to come as you focus on the design of your coloring sheet. Besides helping calm your brain, coloring also allows you to get into a creative mindset. That makes it a great activity if you’re trying to come up with a solution to a problem or seeking inspiration for a project you’re working on. If you dislike coloring, you might try doodling instead. You’ll still get the same benefits as coloring.

Practice yoga.

Yoga is another great way to calm your mind. It’s effective because it allows you to get fully in tune with your body. If other thoughts try to interrupt you, push them away and focus on your current pose. You don’t have to buy an expensive DVD to practice yoga. There are many yoga videos available for free on YouTube.

Take a walk.

Taking a walk, even a short one, is helpful when your brain is buzzing. Not only does walking get you away from your desk, it’s also a great way to relieve stress. You can powerwalk or jog if you prefer that to a leisurely pace. But be choosy with your location. Busy streets can make it hard for you to focus and relax. Instead, opt for quiet streets or walk at local park that you enjoy visiting.

Meditate.

Meditation is a quick way to calm your mind and body. Get into a comfortable position and focus on your breathing. Take slow breaths and feel your body move as you inhale and exhale. Release any conscious thoughts as they come to you. If you’re new to meditation, it can be helpful to choose an object or word to focus on during your session. 

Take a hot bath.

A hot bath is the perfect way to calm an overactive brain. Besides helping you relax, a warm bath can also improve circulation and ease tense muscles. After you’re finished soaking, try to take a quick shower with lukewarm or cold water. This wakes your body up and energizes you so that you’re ready to tackle the rest of your to do list.

When your brain is buzzing, don’t try to work despite it. Instead, acknowledge how you feel right now and try one of the exercises listed above. Then you’ll be able to return to work with a focused mindset.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. When you’re overwhelmed, what helps you relax the most?

2. Do you find yourself frequently flitting from task to task without accomplishing anything? What do you think is causing this?

3. How can you create a system that lets you capture and organize your ideas?

4 Refreshing Drinks to Rehydrate Your Body and Boost Your Brainpower

4 Refreshing Drinks to Rehydrate Your Body and Boost Your Brainpower

Do you feel fatigued while you’re working? Do you frequently experience headaches or dizziness while you’re building your business? Do you find yourself feeling like your brain is in a haze as you struggle to think clearly?

These symptoms might sound scary at first. But they’re often caused by a simple medical condition known as dehydration. Dehydration happens when your body doesn’t have enough fluid. As a result, you may feel tired and achy. You can experience dry mouth, headaches, and even dizziness as a result of your dehydration. 

The good news is that it’s easy to fix dehydration. You just need to drink a few glasses of liquid. Water is the best choice to rehydrate your system. Other beverages like coffee and soda contain caffeine, which can further dehydrate you. That’s why you should opt for water if at all possible.

But what if you hate the taste of water?

While some people believe water has no taste, others insist that it does have a boring flavor. If that describes you, then try one of these healthy options to mask the flavor of your water. You’ll still get the health benefits of drinking but without the taste you dislike.

Water and Lime

Lime is a great way to add flavor to your water. This mild citrus fruit is filled with Vitamin C and cancer fighting flavonoids. If you’re really craving a sweet taste, consider adding one teaspoon of raw honey to your lime water.

Cucumber and Apple Water

Combining cucumber and apple will give your water a sweet, refreshing taste. Cucumbers are an excellent source of several B vitamins while apples are known to fight diseases like Type 2 diabetes and Alzheimer’s disease. 

Green Tea

If you’re still not a fan of water after trying to natural flavors provided by nature, then opt for green tea. Not only can green tea help rehydrate your body, scientists believe that it helps the body burn fat naturally.

Fresh Mint Tea

Like green tea, peppermint tea also boasts many health benefits. It can be useful in preventing nausea and reducing painful stomach cramps. Another advantage of drinking peppermint tea is that it’s a natural anti-inflammatory. If you have an autoimmune disease like arthritis, then it may be helpful to drink peppermint tea regularly.

When it comes to staying productive, your hydration level makes a huge difference. If you’re poorly hydrated, you won’t feel as well and your work may suffer. But drinking more water and tea throughout the day will help prevent this. As a result, you’ll feel energized and alert throughout the day.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. Are you drinking enough regularly to prevent dehydration?

2. How can you add more water and tea into your daily routine?

3. What are some unhealthy drinking choices that you’re making? Could you replace one of these choices with a healthier alternative?

4 Energy Boosting Snacks to Recharge

4 Energy Boosting Snacks to Recharge

If you’re a business owner working from home, you probably have easy access to all sorts of foods. From the pantry to your desk drawer, it’s easy to keep treats on hand when you work for yourself. It can be tempting to indulge your sweet tooth between meals or eat several servings of your favorite salty snacks in the afternoons.

But in order to keep your energy level up throughout the day, you need to choose healthy snacks. Healthy snacks are easier for your body to digest and can help you stay productive. These are the best foods to reach for when you start feeling hungry and need a quick snack.

Green Smoothies

Smoothies are an excellent way to get more fruits and vegetables in your diet. Not only will a smoothie nourish your body, it’s also a good source of vitamins and minerals. But read the labels for the green smoothies that are on store shelves. Some of them have added sugars or other ingredients that aren’t as healthy for you. Try to compare two or three brands to find the smoothies that taste the best and are the most nutritious.

Soups with Legumes

Legumes are vegetables that are encased in a pod or shell, like green beans and peas. Legumes are rich in fiber, which prevents blood sugar spikes. When it comes to soups, it’s best to go homemade if possible. But if you decide to purchase ready-made soup, try to look for a low sodium option since sodium is a preservative that’s abundant in processed foods.

A Healthy Chocolate Fix

Maybe it’s been one of “those kind of days” and you really just need a quick chocolate fix. Instead of reaching for your favorite brand of chocolate, try a healthier alternative like a dark chocolate banana smoothie. You can find dark chocolate brands that are vegan, or you can use a bit of cocoa powder instead. You still get the taste of chocolate but you also get the health benefits of a banana.

Fruit and Plant-Based Yogurt

Indulge your sweet tooth with a bit of fruit and plant-based yogurt. These yogurts are usually made from nut milks or oat milk, and they may also be a good source of plant-based protein. You might be tempted to grab a yogurt from the store shelf that already contains fruit. But that type of yogurt is likely to have added preservatives and extra sugar. That’s why it’s best to opt for plain plant-based yogurt and mix in your own fresh fruits. 

Running a business isn’t always easy. But eating healthy should be. Keep in mind that you don’t have to make everything from scratch. Just remember to compare labels on different products to make sure that you’re picking the most nutritious ones.

Make your healthy snacks easy to reach for. Store the ingredients you need for a smoothie next to your blender. Precut your vegetables so you can just grab a serving and mix in some yogurt. In order to stay productive, you need to give your body healthy foods.

Journal Your Thoughts

1. What snacks do you reach for when you want a treat?

2. How do you feel about your current eating habits? What could you do to improve them?

3. Do you keep healthy foods on hand? Why or why not?

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