There’s an old saying that goes, “the family that prays together stays together.” Today, many experts believe that could be extended to say that couples who share all types of values and goals are likely to have a stronger relationship, and experience more success.
Why struggle on your own when you and your significant other can support each other in living out your dreams? Does that sound like an attribute you would like your relationship to have? Try these tips for couples who want to aim higher and work smarter — together.
Tips for Couples Who Want to Aim Higher
- Set joint goals. Your mate probably knows more about you than anyone else in your life. Double your resources by pulling together to agree on your objectives and how to reach them. Complementing each other’s strengths and weaknesses will help you to cover more ground.
- Share encouragement. If a pep talk inside your own head can recharge your enthusiasm, imagine how much you can encourage your mate, too. You can also gain motivation from having your partner on your side, so cheer each other on.
- Support one another. There’s a good reason why fitness buffs sign up for cycling classes instead of riding a stationary bike alone. Just the presence of others can help you to persevere, and someone you’re close to is more influential than a gym member you just met.
- Be someone and be with someone who is conscientious. Studies show that your mate has a major impact on your career path. A conscientious partner provides a positive role model and practical support.
Tips for Couples Who Want to Work Smarter
- Be realistic. To savor the rewards for your efforts, your goals need to be realistic and attainable. Your significant other can advise you if you’re taking on more than you can handle.
- Be accountability partners. It’s easy to lose track of your goals when you’re keeping up with daily responsibilities. Checking in with each other reminds you of your destination, and what you need to do to get there.
- Keep your plans updated. Being flexible allows you to adapt to changing circumstances. As you evaluate your progress, you may modify your route.
- Take turns. Working in pairs also gives you the advantage of rotating your roles. For example, maybe you’ll both complete your degrees by having one partner work until the other graduates.
- Calm down. While it’s commendable to feel enthusiastic about your goals, too much intensity triggers chronic stress. Couples can provide relief for each other by suggesting when to take a break. Be patient with one another as well.
- Weigh risks. Sometimes you need to take chances to pursue your dreams, but you also want to protect your future. Provide a sounding board for each other if you’re trying to figure out whether a bold step is worthwhile or not. You could shorten your commute by ignoring the speed limits, but finding a job closer to home would be a more reasonable (and safer!) decision.
- Bounce back from disappointment. Research suggests that unfulfilled goals tend to cause more discomfort than having no goals at all. A supportive partner makes it easier to remain content and motivated, because they can remind you to count your blessings if you feel like you’re missing out.
- Enjoy the process. While having specific and measurable goals can help you to become more successful, your happiness depends on appreciating the journey as well as the destination. Traveling with someone you love makes any trip more entertaining, so enjoy the journey!
Revitalize your relationship by moving ahead in the same direction. Team up with your partner to set goals and hold each other accountable. You’re likely to accomplish more and build a closer connection along the way.